1. Stop Apologizing.
even when i’m in no way connected to a problem or mistake, i find myself apologizing to my boss. it has always been in my nature to involuntary say “i’m sorry.” while it may just be annoying to my friends and family, at work it comes across as timid and reactive. instead, i’m trying to respond with proactive questions and ideas. i.e. let’s try X to reverse Y…
2. Practice What You Preach.
When I come across an article, book or talk i find particularly inspiring for women in the workplace, i instantly forward it along to my team of female coworkers. while i hope they find this helpful, i should forward it to everyone. there are a number of things men can do to help right this imbalance, and not sharing my thoughts with them is only contributing to the problem. half of the people can’t work to fix the whole problem and expect significant results.
when i don’t take time out of my day for “me,” no one benefits. i need a few minutes to myself for lunch as it helps me clear my head, i need an adequate amount of time for exercise, because it directly affects my mood and i need enough time to comb through emails and check in on projects or i feel utterly overwhelmed. when someone asks for my help or pulls me into a project, it’s my responsibility to make sure i set enough time to achieve this. standing up for yourself is a sign of strength, not weakness.